The aftermath of BBC documentary - India's daughter - Nirbhaya Rape

The much talked about documentary India's daughter is banned in India and they want to ban it in other countries too. Frankly when I heard about such documentary, I wasn't interested in watching it until I found out it was banned and I heard some stupid reasons here and there about banning it.
So the documentary has two point of views, one, parents and social activistism telling their story and two, the rapist and his lawyers who talk about why rape is "normal" and how it can be "avoided" by women. 

The documentary is disturbing. It is definitely no children stuff. It gives you a hopeless view of the situation in the country for women. Whoever has watched it, has felt there is no scope of improvement in our society and that's how women are looked at. This was possibly the reason a male student was denied internship outside India. This has come out in open but I am sure that is what most of people must be thinking about all men in India. In that way this video is indeed dangerous. Also, the video gives an impression that whether educated or un-educated that's how people think. 

I am trying to understand, why this video is so disturbing in many ways especially for women. Hopefully after reading this article, we can differentiate the reasons, facts and inherent fears which can be baseless.

And, other important thing to understand is the reasons to ban it. They say it can be a threat to nation and can start mass protest. Nothing like that happened. People watched it and discussed it on social media. News channels and papers discussed about why it was banned and whether it should have been banned and the psycho-analysis of rapists.

On it's part BBC did what a story searching channel would do; interview the victims family and the perpetrators and others associated with the case. What went wrong? For our government? For people watching it? for BBC?

I guess banning it, made it even better for BBC. It made more people to watch it. But wasn't the story discussed at length in India by our media? The difference was the interview of the rapist and reflection of his attitude on Indian mentality. The whole world including Indians somewhere generalized for all men in India. We as Indians, probably don't realise it that much because we have lived here, known our men, probably have segregation in our mind who is safe and who isn't and that all men are not alike (Indian or any other). We probably don't realise the repercussions it has. But this isn't the first rape in India which has become an International news. What this documentary changed is scary, "people in India believe rapes are normal and every Indian man wants to practice moral policing". 

I am a woman living in India. Do I travel alone in late evenings on the street? No, I don't. Has this fear reduced my mobility and options of work/having fun? It has. Will I always live in fear? Probably yes. But do I think all men are alike? that every men in India think like what that guy said in the documentary? BIG NO.

My next question, what can be done? Are we gonna leave it at where BBC left it? India is hopeless. Men just want to rape every women at street. Or leave at where government left it? ban it. Avoid answering questions related to it and close eyes, do nothing. or do what what people in India are doing? Watch it. Share the video on social media. Say that rapist and the lawyers are inhuman. Full stop? The end? 

We all have responsibilities. As government, I think first it should un-ban the video and say we accept it happened but also make the position clear. This is not what India is but we accept that incident had these reasons. It is high time that we have better systems for rape victims in the departments of medical help, police and judiciary. 

I still wonder what should be done with those lawyers. Do they believe in what they said? or did they say all that to be part of "The" BBC video. I don't know how the defense lawyers make their point while defending a rapists in the court. In my limited sense, they should try to understand if wrong person is captured in case victim cannot recognize him or probably where false allegations have been made for some malicious reason. but defending a rape? defending someone who is proven rapist? Something has to be done with those guys. Maybe ban them from practicing but i don't know if another "ban" is the right choice.

As media and us, the audience, after all those "banning" discussions are we going to talk about the solutions. We can probably make some Part-2 video wherein we clarify that crimes aren't part of some socio-economic groups and "poor" in India aren't looking for women to rape. To show that when you see a person from a particular social economic back ground here, you don't categorize him as "potential rapist". 

And, very important, probably most, change our thinking towards a rape victim. It has been said million times and it is nothing new. The way she is treated and not accepted in the society. We, as people can atleast do that. We can atleast decide about ourselves, a conscious decision and teach the generations to come. 

It is important for us to not let the world think that we are a country of rapists but more importantly, focus on the problems within our society and our thinking. The documentary has shown things which we have been avoiding; our impression in the world and moral policing as a reason for rape. It's time we look at these problems eye to eye and work on them.