Tuesday 17 November 2015

Hundreds of times...

Hundreds of times
I look around
Looking for you
In this soulless night
You are the mighty sound

Hundreds of times
My eyes look for you
While there are thousands of questions 
There is nothing I can do

Hundreds of times
I wish for your fragrance 
When I wish for the fresh air
It only gets dense!

Monday 9 November 2015

My love for you!

It's when I look the ugliest you call me pretty
You call all my words tantrums
You love me like I never have felt
The way you make me feel, my heart just melts

You words are kind
And eyes are filled with love
Whatever I say to you
I only find love in return

You make me feel
Like I am your princess
I forget who I am with you
Just focus on what I can be to have best of view

I feel like writing for you all night
You have filled me with love so right 
I want to be with you and
The way you hold me your arms so tight

A day will come when I will show my love to you
Maybe then you will understand
Love is a reality which is true

You say to me 
You needed my love
While I sit like a beggar 
The meanings are lost without you
In each and every letter!


Friday 6 November 2015

The funny thing about being a woman

I am a woman and there are so many funny things about being one. Whether we are treated right at home or not we empathise with the women who are not treated rightly. We all are angry from inside. I have not met a woman yet who is not angry about the condition of women around the world. Maybe there are women who don't care. I am sure there are. But, we want all things that are possible/ which are available to men in this world. The funny thing is that sometimes we want things not because we need them but because we know that they are forbidden to us just because of our gender. Another funny thing, that you may not know is we all believe that we deserve things, to be treated fairly but we feel obliged and happy when we are actually treated right. Heard a woman say "My husband and in laws LET ME wear western clothes they are so nice" "He lets me work, he is nice" "he helps me in kitchen (as if it was only her responsibility)? These things are embibed so badly inside of us that we forget that we feel grateful even when we are given basic rights, not something extraordinary. 
The last funny thing that I am going to mention about being a woman is we want to be the "man" in the society while we still want to enjoy the benefits of being a woman!
P.S. This is strictly for women like me, who have access to and have tasted/enjoyed freedom.

The vicious circle of being oppressed and a woman!

The situation of women in India, especially uneducated and non-working ones is not unknown to most of us. It is also known that various policies have been made/ implemented for the betterment of women. Quotas in Government jobs, panchayats, subsidy for girl child education, subsidy to parents having girl child are some of them. Not all methods have worked directly for women empowerment but they have given them freedom in some ways and have saved them for life in others.
We implement policies thinking they are going to change the society. Hundreds of articles/ papers are written on the possible success of that policy, once implemented. Although after implementation we face newer/ fresh challenges. Take for example, the quota of women in panchayat. We expected it to be a big hit, the only problem envisaged before was, women might be less forthcoming. The women were indeed less forthcoming. It took them sometime to come around. But why did they come around? Was it because they wanted to be the member of panchayat/ become sarpanch or their husbands wanted the power they never had/ can have? Then these policies which should have sufficient need more support to cut the cord of that vicious circle. The initiatives like The Hunger project was needed to help this policies actually get implemented in the right way.
Take another example, the Beti Padhao Beti Bachao scheme launched by Haryana government. Haryana is one of the states, which has highly skewed sex ratio. The scheme allows the families of girl child to redeem Rs. 25,000 bond when the girl turns 18, for education. Bad news, 53% of the people are using it for their marriages. The initiative on its own intended to give the girls' education (i.e. higher education). The money, on the other hand is given to the greedy grooms who would look at these girls as a source of decent sum of money or better dowry! Again the policy remains at the mercy of the not the beneficiary but everyone else!
Take another (indirect) example, the free contraceptive distribution. This initiative didn't directly helped in women empowerment. The intent is to check the population growth and maternal and child mortality due to uncontrolled pregnancies resulting in deaths.The indirect effect, (expected) was that, women will have a say in choosing how many children they want. They will not be at the mercy of fate. Everyone realized how strong the opposition is from their husbands in using condoms and the approach wasn't as successful. Then the idea of pills was floated and it was comparatively more successful as this was at the discretion of women. In a way it improved their condition only where they were not pushed and forced by the in-laws not to use such practices. Now world over, there are pressures on India to include other contraception methods apart from (permanent) sterilization, condoms, pills and IUDs. There are further pressures to include injectibles. It has been quite a success with a lot of women who want to choose a method which they can keep hidden from their families. But owing to its side effects government isn't sure about including them in the list. What Indian Government will do is secondary, the more pressing issue is that women need choices that they can hide from their own families to live a life of their choice, whatever be the side effects!
These are not all. There are issues related to sexual violence, female foeticide, rapes to name a few. All these issues and policies go back to the way women think and how freely they can operate in their environment. Most of the time, they are at the mercy of the people they live with, and call them their family. The acceptance and use of policies in the right way depend on the fact that if they are allowed to make use of policies made for them and if they have any say in choosing the options available to them. Then probably more policies, more initiatives are needed because one policy/ one initiative opens the Pandora box. It opens new set of problems and challenges. All this seems like a vicious circle of being oppressed and being a woman!